the sparkly life: Am I Doing This Wrong?

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Am I Doing This Wrong?

This photo was taken last month when--shocker--it was snowing. My son's face best sums up our feelings about this weather.
I ran into my friend Jenny last night when we were leaving work, and we ended up riding the train together and talking. We hadn't seen each other in months, but still, 99 percent of our conversation revolved around the weather. Specifically, how miserable it is. After all, we're New Yorkers and that is all anyone in New York talks about anymore. This abysmal, endless winter.

In Facebook statuses, in work meetings, in casual conversations--all we do is talk about how sick we are of this freezing, snowy, slushy weather. It's banal, but we can't help it. It's all we can think about. Because it will. not. end.

And guess what? It's snowing again today. Surprise, suckers! So here I am, putting more mileage on my well-worn Sorels and trying to build a decent outfit around a trapper hat. 

Meanwhile, my friends in California are killing me with their status updates and Instagrams. Last week, one friend posted pictures of her daughter's backyard birthday party. The kids were in sundresses. Please note that, except for the brief, bundled walk to and from school, my kids have essentially been inside since OCTOBER.

Another friend shared photos of her children frolicking in the ocean. That happened the same day my daughter's boots leaked, leaving her feet soaking wet and freezing by the time we got to school. I had to have my nanny rush out to deliver dry shoes and socks. 

It begs the question: Am I doing this wrong?

Why am I, as a human woman--one with warm blood and the ability to Google Southern California real estate--subjecting myself and my kids to this? 

After last year's hellish winter, two of my beauty industry friends basically said "fuck this" and moved their families to Florida. Now they regularly post pictures of their kids at the pool. THE POOLS IN THEIR OWN BACKYARDS. They are happy. They are warm. I am jealous.

I love New York, but this weather is insane. And there's no law that says I have to stay here. I don't need a passport to move south or west. There are these things called moving companies. People do in fact leave this place. 

But, I know that I won't. We have a life here. And jobs. And a house. And for a good two, three months out of the year, we like the weather. But I can't lie and say I don't think about leaving--hard--when I see pictures of people in L.A. sipping lemonade at outdoor cafes. 

So for now, I'll just complain about it. In every conversation. Because that's what us New Yorkers do.

Am I the only one with a serious case of #SAFOMO (Seasonal Affective Fear of Missing Out)? If you live in the frigid east coast or Midwest, are you dreaming of moving, too? 

And if you live in California/Arizona/Florida, I hate you. Just kidding. Please send me warm, happy, palm-tree-covered thoughts.


Melanie said...

I hear you. We live in Chicago. We broke a record here for the coldest February on the books. We're going on 3 days of stomach flu and respiratory sickness. We can't go outside because it's 10 degrees today. My retinas fry at any exposure to sun because you know, WINTER. I'm so angry about it all! LOL!

MrsMuffinTop said...

Did you feel that? I sent you those warm, palm tree thoughts. BUT -- and let me tell you, this is a major BUT…. Just because we have nice weather in California, doesn't mean it's a better place to live! I grew up in one of the coldest places in Canada, and now live in LA, and I'd gladly go back to the snow and out of this fantasy land. I should elaborate, but won't, for fear that my neighbors and friends might stumble upon my true thoughts. Bottom line: don't be jealous. Nice weather doesn't breed happiness!!!

Anonymous said...

EVERY single winter I ask my husband why we live in the Midwest! This weather is so annoying but I have to say it makes you appreciate the spring and fall. So, there's our bright side :)

Terri Grothe said...

I don't mind winter at all, in fact it is a nice welcome to stay home and relax more, nothing I like more then to curl up with a good book by the fire place with a hot drink while there is a snow storm out side

Anonymous said...

I have family in New York and also keep hearing about how awful it is there! Hopefully, it stops soon. Yuck.

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